What we stand for and why we exist?

One day, I saw a squirrel eating apple. I realized that the apple tree exists for providing fruit and shelter to others. Squirrel exists for dispersing the seeds and thereby creating more trees. And finally the earth exists for providing enough for all.

Then I asked myself "What I stand for and why I exist?". I could not find an answer. I was better a squirrel with a purpose than a human being without any. I could not believe that I had lived half my life without any real purpose. I was just surviving, not living.

Months passed by, I still had no answer. One rainy evening, I saw a small bird hopping. It was not able to fly. In the past I have ignored these situation. I would turn other side because it was not my problem. But this time it was different. I realized that my purpose of life then was to nurse that bird. I took the bird, it was a little one which has been trying to fly high. It was raining and hence the young wet wings was not able to flap.

I dried its wings and held it near a fan. In a few minutes, the little one soared again in the sky. I was very happy and satisfied. I found the purpose in life then. I wrote down,

My purpose in life is to serve.

When you chase things they run away

It was Jan 2003. I was doing my final semester. I was getting nervous about job after college. I could speak a little bit of English and did not find any other skill that will get me a job. The first company to come to our college was a Call Center company. Even though I did want to be a calling agent, I attended the interview. During the discussion the interviewer said I was looking desperate. I did not understand what he meant then & was rejected.

Later realized that the I was my problem. I wanted a job badly which was causing trouble. One of my friend came to me and asked "What will happen if you don't get a job while in college? You will definitely get one later. But if you feel this way, you might never get one!" It was then I decided to do my part and not think about the outcome.

The moment you get too attached to things, people, money, your job you invariably screw it up! The challenge of life is to appreciate everything and attach yourself to nothing. When you chase things too hard they run away. Did you ever need to sell something, desperately? A car, a house, who wanted it? Nobody! So you dropped the price. Who cared? Nobody! The principle? When you are desperate, nothing happens!

Desperation pulls you into a descending spiral – and the more your worry, the less people you attract! Detachment is major reason rich people get richer. They do not care so much, they are not desperate.

On the mental and physical level, we are dealing with natural laws. Nature does not understand desperation! Nature seeks balance and you cannot be desperate and balanced. Life does not have to be an endless struggle. Let things flow. It is not indifference, it is neither forcing things.


Finally, I had 2 excellent jobs to choose. More importantly I realized, life is like a butterfly which will sit on your shoulders if you don't run for it.